Be Offended

Be Offended

I’ve never been offended in my life. Ever. I know its hard to believe, especially in this current culture, where everyone needs to be offended by everything. I’ve been called some of the worst things that can be spoken to someone, and yet, never offended. I have friends who disagree with me 100% of the time on most topics. However, somehow, we remain friends. Because we can respect each others opinions, and find common ground in the things we know each other for

I played golf with a group last week, and had a similar discussion. He was a friend of a friend, who embraces the hipster mentality. Which is fine. Not my thing, but it seems to work for him. We were talking about how easily people are offended. I asked him what the last thing he was offended about. Of all things, it was a bumper sticker.

I looked at him, and told him I’ve never been offended. This shocked him. He couldn’t understand why. The argument to not be offended is simple. Why let someone get to you so easily? What do they have that is so great, that you need their acceptance? He said, ‘That’s a great way to look at life. I think I’m going to take that to heart. What a great way to live.’

As the day wore on, and we played awful golf, we talked and joked about this and that. After our round, we went for drinks and lunch. The conversation went to politics, hunting, guns, and any number of things.

I’ve been called faggot, retard, crazy, gay…mostly anything you can think of, I’ve been called it. Again, never being offended.

In the conversation, pertaining to politics in this instance, his beliefs and thoughts he had made it clear to what he was. Very on point, spewing things that he has read. Very well I might add. All the points that would sway a suggestible mind.

So, of course, being who I am, I called him out. ‘So, you’re a socialist.’

I’ve never seen someone go from 0-100 so quickly. He assured me that he wasn’t, and told me he took personal offense to it.

‘How can that be? We talked earlier about you not taking offense to anything anymore, because what you value should have no bearing on what I think about it.’

He was so upset by what I had said, he couldn’t speak. Of course I was right, and he knew it. But that’s not the point.

The point is, there is no reason, at all, to be offended by what others say to you. Nothing you see should offend you. Harambe has been banned by colleges, for being ‘rape culture’. Sombrero’s are no longer allowed for Cinco de Mayo. Christmas nativity scenes are offensive to see in public. Men acting like men is egregious.  Why?!

Because we now live in a culture of ME. Forget everything else, my emotions need to be addressed now. You are a poison, and I don’t like it. I need to speak to a counselor, because you hurt my feelings. I was offended by you stating your opinion.

Read this part closely. Your feelings don’t matter to anyone else, nor should they. What you are complaining about today, will not affect your tomorrow. The world doesn’t agree with you. You are not a special little snowflake. You are insignificant to anyone more than 5 feet from you. You being offended isn’t changing anything. No one cares. Get over yourself.

“You are not special. You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everything else.” –Tyler Durden

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